So i got it all built, for some reason the gain adjust is not working and I need to investigate that to see why but other than that, it seems to be working and the gain is about what was predicted in the simulation as can be seen by the scope output below. So I will fix the few bits that need fixing and then move onto working on the IF filter. I think this will do the job required quite nicely.
Oh and I have worked out whats going on with the variable gain, Q2 is a current source, so it supplies more current to the amp above, not less, so what I need to do is redesign the amp to have the MIN amount of gain required for my circuit, then use Q2 as a gain boost. Now that I understand what is going on, I can redesign the circuit to have 3 to 12db gain swing. More than enough for the kinds of girls I go out with.